Dear Future BullBuster,

Have you recently woken up to the fact that you’ve been pretending you’re happy living a life that makes you unhappy?

That unhappy part of your life is like a bee buzzing in your bedroom as you go to sleep. You know it’s there, but you really want some sleep, so you close your eyes and pretend it isn’t.

But some part of you knows the bee is there, and that it might even sting you while you sleep.

A part of you will stand guard throughout the night and wake you up if the bee lands on your face or flies by your ear. You’ll get some rest, but you’ll still feel sleepy in the morning, because you are in conflict with yourself.

Another part of you is trying to sweep the truth (that you’re unhappy) under the carpet and go to sleep, but that other part knows you might get stung by the truth and wants to do something about it.

The fact is, you’ve been sleepwalking through your life because in order to make it through each day, you’ve had to say something like this to yourself,

“This isn’t the life I imagined for myself, and it could be a lot better, but it’s ok. It could also be a lot worse. I’ll just stop being so **insert the part of your personality you decided to repress** and then I’ll be fine.”

Or

“No matter how bad this gets, it sure beats being alone.”

And, for a while, you really were fine!

Those killer back pains that kept you glued to the couch, the joint flare-ups that made you feel stuck, and the stomach pains that made eating difficult (and drinking impossible because of all those damn medications you have to take for the pain), those were just random occurrences, no connection to the feelings you’re repressing.

Yeah, it must be old age that’s causing your body to break down, that’s it! (Because geez, you’re already in your 20s, 30s or 40s, and that’s really old.)

Now that you’ve awakened to your unhappiness…

you’re aware of the fact that you haven’t felt excited or passionate in a long time. In fact, wait, you gotta check your pulse to make sure your heart is still beating.

And then you realize you’ve got your hand on your heart or your wrist but you can’t find your pulse. But you figure it’s ok. After all, you’re not a doctor, so the fact that you’re awake must mean you’re alive, and that’s enough proof for you.

And, even though you feel like your heart is trapped in a cage and wants to get out, it’s ok, there’s more to life than your silly heart says, anyway…..

But that damn buzzing bee of unhappiness in your soul is with you all the time. “Bzzzzzz. Bzzzzzzzz“.

You’re starting to get angry, and actually lay awake at night tossing and turning. You decide that the reason you can’t sleep must be the bed or your pillow, so you replace them both, and yet you still can’t sleep.

Bzzzzzz. Bzzzzzz. You can’t get that awful feeling you’re not living your true potential out of your heart.

You try white noise, but it’s no better than other noise. You get ear plugs, and….now you hear your heart beating…..it is there after all!…. and listening to your heart is a fate worse than hearing an ambulance siren all night long!

The lack of sleep is making things worse. Now you’re acutely aware of your fatigue and frustration, and you need someone to blame.

Aha! It’s your partner’s snoring, or your boss giving you too much work – so much anxiety from all these people around you making your life such a mess, can’t they just leave you alone??!!!

And then you bust a gut, or herniate a disc, or accidentally cut yourself, and you start wondering,

“Isn’t there more to life than this?

Didn’t I used to believe I could do more with myself?

What if I still can?

What if I don’t have to suffer or pretend I’m happy anymore?

What if I actually admitted that I’m NOT happy, and tried to do something about it?”

And then you ended up here, on this very page, somehow, randomly. You’re reading this, and you wonder “What the hell is BullBuster Boot Camp and who is this strange girl named Heather that has just described my life so well, and what can she do for me?”

Are You Ready to Bust the Bull in Your Life?

BullBuster Boot Camp is the support vehicle for you to get really honest with yourself. Sometimes, the truth is hard to face, and even harder to admit. Are you ready?

This is your chance to actively change the parts of your life that are holding you back from happiness.

Does any of this sound like you?

You’ve tried therapy and gotten tired of over-analyzing your past – you want to focus on the future!

You’ve been bitching and complaining to your friends and loved ones (even complete strangers on the bus who don’t speak English) about all the drama in your life (because they don’t seem to realize how much drama there is in being unhappy and bored, so you must repeatedly remind them!) and you’ve gotten so many different types of advice that you can’t hear your own thoughts anymore. (And a few of them have stopped taking your calls which is just SO rude, but gives you something more to tell one of your other friends….)

You’ve added 8.5 glasses of your favorite alocoholic beverages to your week, and tell everyone you’re just being European; having an aperitif before dinner, and something to help you digest afterwards

You have this nagging feeling you’re in the wrong place, maybe even the wrong life, and it’s not because you just watched “It’s a Wonderful Life” on TV.

Hope, for you, is the name of your boss, and she’s driving you nuts!

You feel stuck, you’re frustrated, feel constantly run down, and you’re sick of the fact that the safest place for you, up until today, has been to avoid taking any action at all

If you’re here, then you’re realizing that you need someone to help you sift through your conflicting thoughts, and give you really honest feedback when your own BULL is getting in the way.

It’s Time to Get Real

Whether you’ve spent months, or years, trying to avoid your unhappiness, and beating yourself up at how long it’s taking you to confront it, IT’S TIME FOR YOU TO WAKE UP AND SMELL THE BULL – IT STINKS!

It’s time to stop beating yourself up, and start taking action. Accept the stuff that “is what it is”, see the learning and gifts that have been presented to you through the hardship you’ve faced, and allow yourself to break free and move forward.

If you’re here, you’ve already taken the first step! Now it’s time to challenge yourself – do you want to stay stuck in the paralysis of beating yourself up and doing nothing about it? Or are you ready to admit that you are more than your ambivalence, stop complaining, and start being happy?!!! (Did I mention that the price of being happy with yourself is that you won’t have anything to complain about?)

Do You Have the Courage to Free Yourself from the Herd?

Right about now, you may be feeling split in two. You feel deeply seen, your heart may be beating, you have the sense that finally, someone understands what you’re going through…..

But it’s been so long since you’ve felt like this, you’re not quite sure if you can trust what you’re feeling.

Do you really have the courage and strength to move forward? Can you really let go of the complaining, the drama, and the powerlessness? (Because there is no complaining or blaming allowed in Boot Camp!)

If you do confront your feelings, you realize that you might risk some loss - friends, location, love…..are you up to letting go of what’s not working so you can create the things you deeply desire in your life? (Closer friends, deeper love, more satisfaction…)

The truth is, even though you don’t like where you are, you know it’s safe and familiar.

You know you want something different for yourself, but change is really scary, and even though you’re not happy at the moment, you can at least rely on being unhappy. (Because, YES, that’s what you’re doing – you’re waking up every day, unhappy, and have convinced yourself that you’re happy with the stability of your unhappiness!)

Yes, change can be scary. But, the thought of change is even scarier than the change itself. The real question is, if you truly believe that a happier life is possible for yourself, why are you so obsessed with staying unhappy?

Whether or not you’ve done transformational work on yourself before, you may have a sense that it can be scary.

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable, admitting you’re standing in your own way, and showing parts of yourself you’ve kept hidden for so long is scary. It can also be one of the most liberating experiences of your life.

You’ve seen shows like “The Biggest Loser”, so you understand what tough love is like – but can you handle that tough love if it’s directed at you?

“Heather will get you where you need to be, which may be completely different from where you think you need to be! Heather gave me tools so that I can figure out how to help myself, and have more focus. She helped me get to some deeper issues I need to work on and gave me a stepping point to continue moving forward. As a result of our coaching, I feel that I’ll be happier, and will have work I truly enjoy, rather than see it as just a paycheck. ”

Stacey, Washington, DC
Federal Government

So, What Do You Get From BullBuster Boot Camp?

Awareness. You’ll see how you’ve been standing in your own way and use these insights to stop sabotaging your life! You will also get to see longtime patterns you’ve been repeating unconsciously.

Honesty. You get the truth. You may not always like what you hear, but accepting your role in the state of your life allows you to improve it.

Support. Heather will help you through the dark, and shine light on the path that helps you move forward. Your eyes may have to adjust, but it’s worth it. (NOTE – you will not get literally picked up and put on Heather’s shoulders, or leaned against her. Though Heather would be delighted to carry you around, her doctor said she has to stop carrying so much.)

Motivation. You’ll be encouraged to confront the truth, and step into action to get past those parts where you feel stuck in the muck of the inertia you’ve created around you. (OK, and because Heather may become a total pain in the a$$ of persistence if you don’t just do your homework!)

Seen. You will have someone who really sees you, even those parts you’ve been trying to hide from everyone else, and who wants to welcome you anyway. This is much more intense than x-ray vision!

Understanding. You’ll have a partner who understands what you’re experiencing, has done the journey herself, and really gets the feelings, fears, tears and changes you have to face. And she’s even regurgitated the truth on occasion, so she really knows how awful parts of the process can feel! But she has also experienced the other side and knows it’s worth the trip!

Action Plan. Heather is all about taking action. You’re not allowed to stand still anymore! You’ll develop your own action plan to change your life for the better.

Self-Empowerment. It may sound crazy right now, but once you go through BullBuster Boot Camp, you will be able to create a life you like, rather than trying to live a life that isn’t working for you – what could be better than that?! (OK, maybe two scoops of Baskin-Robbins mint chocolate chip ice cream with rainbow sprinkles and not gaining an ounce of weight after eating it…)

Freedom to Be Yourself. You can finally express those hidden parts of yourself, and honestly proclaim the things you aren’t telling anyone else – finally a place to be accepted as you are, rather than how others want you to be! (Because Heather is pretty silly herself, and used to be surrounded by people who teased her a lot, so she tried to be less silly to try and fit in. But now she surrounds herself with people who simply sigh at her silliness and actually tell her later, “Hey, over the weekend, I pulled a ‘Heather’” and is very amused by what people do that they think is behaving like Heather….)

Happy! Because, isn’t that the goal? You get to actually like yourself, and your life. (No, really, I’m not kidding – and you won’t even have to be drunk.)

Laugh at Yourself. Once you look at all the things you’ve been doing to stand in your own way, you’re going to have a good laugh! (And you might laugh at some of the stuff Heather says while you’re at it.)

Hungry. Not only will you be hungry to get cracking on your new life, you’ll probably also want to eat a big meal after all your hard work.

“The biggest value I got from coaching with Heather was repeatedly going to mining depths I never knew existed….She always helped me see fresh viewpoints and consider new ideas I hadn’t thought of.

What I gained from our coaching is that I transformed myself even more than I had thought possible….[Heather] showed me things about myself I didn’t realize, and helped me learn a lot for my own coaching practice, which has helped me with my own clients.

I got to be constantly reminded of who I am, and Heather never let me forget that. She was and is my biggest supporter. I began wholeheartedly believing how truly great I am! Heather held me accountable by helping me recognize when my excuses and fears got in the way, and this enabled me to get on with what I needed to do.

I loved working with Heather because she was always dedicated and committed to my progress. She allowed me to show up fully and go to very deep levels. She has incredible intuition, sensitivity and dedication. She is there with you in the dark moments, when you need her, and equally supportive when you need accountability and goal-orientation.”

Steve Rozengauz, International Entrepreneur, New York / Brazil

How do You Know if BullBuster Boot Camp is For You?  What Challenges Can It Help You With?

You’ve spent a long time complaining about your life situation, and you’re tired of complaining. You know it’s time to finally make a change!

You find yourself naturally repressing parts of yourself (silliness? sense of humor? speaking your true thoughts?…) and you’ve begun to feel like you don’t recognize yourself in your life, or even in the mirror.

You’re experiencing physical pain or problems and you wonder if they may be a direct result of repressing your feelings and emotions

You’re in a relationship and you’re just not sure it’s the right one for you

You just got out of a relationship and you realize you’re sick of attracting the same “wrong” partner over and over

You just broke up with someone and can’t stop feeling sorry for yourself

You can’t stand your job, but you’re not sure if you should leave it

You have a long-standing internal conflict you want to look at, such as procrastination, attracting the wrong partners in relationships, etc. in order to change this behavior within yourself

You feel your relationship with your parents or step-parents is “horrible” and underneath the anger and resentment you feel, you deeply crave a closer relationship with them

You can’t tolerate whatever isn’t working in your life another day. Even if it means confronting yourself, you know you have to make this change NOW

You’re telling other people stories to hide what you’re ashamed of, and you want to come clean with everyone and stop the lies

Therapy either didn’t work, or isn’t for you. You need someone to be straight with you about you’re own BS, not another voice asking “what’s wrong with you?”  And, you don’t want to be paying someone else “for the rest of your life”!

You don’t feel like anyone really “gets” you, or understands what you’re going through, and you’ve tried to explain it to a lot of people…..

You feel like your life is mediocre, and you want to be excited about it!

You have thoughts like:

“I could see myself doing something different and meaningful, but it’s too hard to make those changes”

“If I try and be myself, no one will like or accept me”

“I could stay in this situation forever, but it feels so unfulfilling. Isn’t there more to life than this?”

Are You Ready to be Self-Empowered Starting Right Now?

Start with the “How Much BullBusting do You Need” survey to learn where you are on the BullBuster scale.

Sign up for the BullBuster Cafe series “Lies I Tell Myself to Fit Into the Wrong Life” to start getting an idea of the BullBuster philosophy.

Apply for a spot in the next BullBuster Boot Camp.

What Is BullBuster Boot Camp?

BullBuster Boot Camp is a Two-Part Series of live group calls, limited to a maximum of 6 people. You get the process you need for everything from confronting your bull, to busting your bull in 10 weeks!

Each week, for 10 weeks, you’ll get a live call with Heather and the rest of your BullBuster brigade where you’ll be challenged to transition from your old ways to something new and empowering.

Level 1 – Awareness

This 5-week intensive is where you get to dive in and take a deep look at the areas of your life you want to change, and all the Bull that’s standing in your way. Here’s an idea of what you’ll get:

An understanding of the areas of your life that aren’t working, and why they aren’t working

An honest look at the stories you’re telling, and what you’re avoiding by holding on to them

Space to look at who you might be without those stories, and what that might mean for you

An understanding of who, and what, you might lose if you make the changes you need to, and whether relationships can be transformed or need to go

Level 2 – Action

The second 5-week intensive gives you the tools and support you need to create a life that makes you happy. We’ll look at topics such as:

Building a support structure to allow you to make the changes you need

An action plan for you to release anything that doesn’t align with the life you’re trying to create

A supportive environment to process the emotions following any changes you need to make

Wisdom to ensure you don’t welcome in any people or energy to your new life that looks like your old one

The end result is you get to understand what’s really to blame for your unhappiness, and you get to figure out what you need to do to create a happier life, and empower yourself in the process.

Register for BullBuster Boot Camp and Save!

You can pay in one, or two installments. The cost of BullBuster Boot camp is $597. You can pay in two installments of $299, OR, save 10% and pay up front for one payment of $537!

“I feel like a stronger, empowered woman after taking Heather’s [BullBuster Boot Camp] coaching program. I learned about the patterns and habits I have when I date men and am in a relationship. With this new awareness, I feel I can finally start to change thoughts and actions that hold me back from being in the kind of healthy, loving relationship I want. I had many “aha” moments when an insight hit me that I was never aware of before.  Heather is warm and engaging, and I always  felt free to open up with her. I recommend her program to anyone who feels stuck and wants to make a positive lasting change in their lives.”

Joanna Engleman

Is Today Your Day to Face the Bull?

Are you ready to honor that voice inside you that’s begging to be heard, get real with yourself and make those changes instead of just talking about them? Do you want to have clarity on the areas of your life that aren’t working, and find out how to make your life the way you want it to?

If you are, your heart may be beating a little fast, you may be a little nervous, and uncertain. (Hey, that means your heart is there after all!)  But, something is calling you to be here, and despite being scared, you just know that today is the day for you to commit to action.

But, if you’ve decided this isn’t for you, that’s great, too – a decision is empowering in itself! Thanks for reading the page. I hope you laughed, felt challenged, and know that you’re welcome back any time you’re ready. (Or to get a good laugh.)

And, if you’re just unsure, and have questions you need clarified before you know you’re ready, simply email admin@thebullbustercafe.com for guidance.

NOTE: registrations are handled first come, first serve, and your place is not guaranteed until your payment is received. Due to the intensity of the work, we cannot accept more than 6 people per class, and they are offered only a few times a year.

My goal is your satisfaction. This work has to not only make a difference in your life, you need to feel it’s right for you. If for any reason you feel this program is not right for you, you have until the end of the second week of BootCamp to request a 100% refund of all your costs. Just ask, and your money will be returned to you within one week of your request.

Again, thanks for taking the time to read this page. I hope I can have a positive impact on your life, and provide something that makes you laugh or smile every day.

- Heather Markel, The BullBuster